This is what happened to him 2 weeks ago when he attended a Madonna concert with his boyfriend and a straight female friend. I've since gotten his permission to publicize this widely if in doing so it can lead to positive change. Your thoughts along this line are welcome.
About ½ of the way through the concert, I believe that I and my boyfriend (and by association, one female friend with us) were the victim of a hate crime, or at least, discrimination based on our sexual orientation.
If he moves forward with publicizing this, there will doubtless be discussion as to whether what he experienced was a hate crime. I say yes: even though there was no physical violence, there was direct intimidation whose intent was to send a message to an entire class of people. "Hate crime" seems a widely misinterpreted term (I'll throw up next time I hear someone counterargue, "ALL crimes are hate crimes"); what is needed, I suspect, is a class of crime denoted "categoric intimidation," or better words to that effect - a parallel to "ethnic intimidation."